In a relationship

When it comes to sex in relationships, there can be a lot of pressure. However, you decide what's right for you and when it's right. Respectful sex is something that you do with each other, not to each other.

In a respectful relationship:

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• Boundaries are respected.
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• Trust is shared.
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• Both parties feel valued.
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• Equality exists.
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• There is consent in all sexual situations.
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• Honesty.
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• Communication lines are open and flow freely.
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Sex should be a shared, consensual experience. You and your partner should know and respect each other's boundaries.

Consent means you freely agree to something. When it comes to sexual activity, even if you say 'yes' or go along with something, you're not always 'freely agreeing'. This includes:

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• Someone forcing or threatening you in any way - verbally, physically or emotionally.
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• If you are too wasted on alcohol or drugs to say 'yes' or 'no'.
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Even if you say yes, you can change your mind at any point. If you change your mind or you are not comfortable with something, you have a right for it to stop.

You have the right to not consent to your partner's sexual requests. They have the responsibility to stop and respect your decision.

Ask your partner, "Is this something you want to do? Are you ready? Does this feel good?" Look to what they say and their body language. Look for 'yes' messages and 'no' messages. Remember, only 'yes' means 'yes'. Respect how they feel and what they say.